Sunday, December 13, 2009

Changes, Responsibility, and Growing up

Hubs and I were talking tonight about all the responsibility that comes with changes and with growing-up. There's finances. There's jobs. There's home. There's marriage. There's family. There's church. There's friends. There's Christmas gifts. There's even just making dinner.

There is this tug - a pull between wanting to have a house, family, and be "grown-up" versus loving the easy life without quite as many choices and responsibility. If we could just skip that in-between awkward phase.

It's like junior high. Part of you loves the simple life of being a kid; yet the other part of you is ready to wear make-up and get a job. But you are just stuck in this awkward transition stage.

So, we are kind of in junior high again. We are in this dangling phase where we don't necessarily know what will happen in the future, but we can't continue not making changes and plans. The temptation is to sit and wait until we know what the future holds. But in doing so, we would miss out on so much of our lives.

And this, my friends, is how we learn to trust God.


Lindsay said...

You're SO right - I remember feeling that way b/w marriage and kids. But enjoy it - really. It's like they always tell kids "don't be in such a hurry to grow up."

And hey - about the dentist post - I have thought about what you wrote all the time and I think that's so neat that he was able to diagnose that little kid! Who knew you could find a non-dental disease by your dentist! Go Richard! I LOVE going to the dentist so I've wanted my kids to have a good first experience so that they'll like it too....but now I see it in a whole new light. Crazy.

aconkling said...

Yep, I agree with Lindsay. I remember Jack and I sitting on those same decisions for a while, and then all of a sudden it clicked and we were ready. I don't know how to explain it, other than through lots of prayers and God's guidance and reliance!
Best of luck to you in this "awkward" stage. Will be praying for you guys!

Jake said...

Make me an Uncle!!! That's my amazing advice...

Audrey said...

ha ha I'm laughing at jake's post. :) I totally understand what you're talking about, I feel it when I go on a date with Mitch, or having the house to myself for one day. It's less work but the work is worth it ( a break is nice sometimes forsure) for being married, and especially the kid aspect. You give up a lot but gain so much more.

Leah said...

Its totally give and take. I sometimes think how nice it used to be to leave the house when I wanted, or go to a movie with Chris whenever we felt like it. But now we have a kid (and a half) and its a whole different story. Cant really do anything without preparing for it the night before and cant leave the kid unless you have a babysitter. All of this being said, as much stress the little kiddos bring.....they also bring SO MUCH more completeness and happiness into our home and family that it makes up for all the rest. I think about the easier days, but I would never trade it in for what I have now! :) I hope you have a fabulous Christmas!!!!